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Monday, 2 April 2018

Should You Share Your Blog With Friends & Family?

How to Style OTK Boots for Spring
Admittedly, this post is directed towards bloggers and bloggers alone.  But hey, for all of you who don't have a blog, you never know when you may get the urge to write one and be asking yourself this very question!  So, a couple of months ago, I came across a thread discussing whether or not to share your blog name with friends and family.  My immediate thought was 'well, why not?' and moved on with my day.  Except, until that point, I'd only shared my blog name with direct family and a couple of friends!  I'd be quick to share it with those who move in and out of life in the blink of an eye, and yet not with the constants who have loved and supported me for years. Strange?  Strange.  You can imagine where I'm going with this.  Since then, I've told friends and family my blog name and have been soaking up their reactions ever since...
OTK Over The Knee Silver Glitter Boots
Glitter OTK Boots and Chunky Jumper
Any negative reactions?  Nope, not a single one (uh, yet).  In hindsight, I think a friend or family member's reaction to your online space will tell a lot about your relationship with them.  If they're rooting for you they'll share their honest opinion - but most importantly, their reaction must always be free from judgement.  Always.  Personally, I'm so pleased to have shared my blog name with those in my personal life, because not only do they provide a totally different perspective on content, but it's also pretty freeing to be able to talk about work to them without needing to clip sentences or watch my words!    
Chlobo Heart Valentine's Silver Bracelet
Topshop OTK Silver Stiletto Glitter BootsUltimately, it comes down to whether your online presence and personal lives are able to crossover.  Will it cause you unnecessary upset?  Will you have to answer uncomfortable questions?  Do you trust the people you're telling?  I know the whole debate of 'timing' comes up far too often, but it really is the case when it comes to sharing your blog with friends and family.  When the time is right, you'll know.  When you're comfortable doing so, you'll know.      

Jumper - Miss Selfridge

Boots - Topshop (similar block heel version)

Bracelet - Chlobo

Stilettos Boots Over The Knee OTK
Should you share your blog with friends and family?
In conclusion?  It all comes down to trust and instincts.  I've found this topic ridiculously fascinating over the past couple of of months and so I can't wait to hear your thoughts in the comments below!  Have you shared your blog name with anyone in your personal circles?  And if so, at what point did you tell them?

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With love,

Gabrielle x

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  1. Such a great post, and something that's rarely discussed! It can be daunting when you share something that's personal to you, but you're right in that it will only lead to honest opinions - which is always good!

    //teandtwosugars.blogspot.com xx

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  2. My friends & family have always been supportive. I can see both ways. Love your outfit Gabrielle. Pink & black is always so pretty.
    http://www.averysweetblog.com/

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  3. First of all, I want to say I'm obsessed with those over the knee boots!! Such a fun touch to add to an outfit and they look amazing on you Gabrielle! In regards to this post topic, I have shared my blog with my closest friends from the beginning and they were so supportive and even gave me a hand with a few things at that time! So, I'm very happy I did, but with some other relatives like my cousins I still haven't completely tell them, so as you said it really comes down to trust.

    Have a lovely week babe! :)

    Andrea.

    Seize your Style

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  4. Glad to know that your friends and family have been supportive. You have picked a great topic! Unfortunately I can't do it as I belong to a conservative family. Only some close family members know about my blogging. I wish I could share it to all of them. You are looking like a pretty doll. Pink suits you very well. Have a happy Monday <3 Kisses <3
    http://www.rakhshanda-chamberofbeauty.com/

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  5. I shared my blog name with my close family when I started, but never really spread the word in my circle of friends until recently, mostly because it overlapped with work and with my previous work, it might have damaged my standing.

    Anne - Linda, Libra, Loca

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  6. For years, I didn't share my blog name with anyone. My husband knows about it (obviously as he is the one who takes my outfit photos) but for the longest time I didn't really tell anyone else. My mother learned about it from other family members who asked her about it. How they learned about it, I don't know. I know it's terribly naive, but I didn't think that anyone outside the blogging community would read it. I still think of blogs as something that is shared in the blogging community. I didn't really consider that there are people who follow blogs & are genuinely interested in them but are not bloggers themselves. I only became aware of them when I started getting emails from people who loved my blog and when random people started to ask me about my blog ( I still don't know how they found out). Anyhow, now that the cat is out of the bag anyway, maybe I should share my blog name with all of my family members & friends. I'll think about it. It is a very interesting topic. I'm happy to hear that the reactions you received were positive & supportive. I would say the same was the case with me, I got positive reactions.

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  7. You look absolutely beautiful btw. That pink sweater is so cute...and I absolutely love those over the knee boots.

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  8. I got to a point where I was getting lots of traffic and collabs so when I "outed" myself it seemed to be more meaningful, especially when they realised how much effort and time I had invested into it. It's down to who you tell and how you say it too. Everyone knows I have one now, so it isn't much of an issue! :)

    Erin || MakeErinOver

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  9. I have yet to tell anyone I know (who isn't a very close friend) because I feel the need to prove myself first. I want to show a successful blog so it doesn't look like i'm wasting my time. I'm okay with that. It makes me work a bit harder to get that success faster :B

    http://www.rosegoldrhyme.com

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  10. I started telling all my family and friends early last year before that I hid it from many. I don't know why but I wasn't comfortable with letting people know....I guess I was worried that I will be mocked?

    Shireen⎜Reflection of Sanity

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  11. My family was the first audience of my blog. I must say that they are the most supportive ones who gave me motivation to blog. When I started sharing my blog with my friends, I was pretty shy. I didn't think they'd appreciate it but sooner or later, I realized that it's me who was doubting myself. This is such a nice post. Also, you look so stunning in that outfit!

    xx Myrra, www.myrrazenkate.com

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  12. Stumbled on your blog and I AM OBSESSED! Your post on dressing like Cher from Clueless- amazing! This post is so relevant to me! I started my blog at 18 and didn't share it with my family until much later establishing a following of not family but when it was more well established and I had worked with enough brands I told them about it. I'm glad that finally I can share it with them and respect all bloggers desire for privacy online or ability to share their page publicly.

    x,
    S | Je M'appelle Chanel

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  13. Well i guess if you are able to share your blog with everybody then why not on your family.
    You look gorg babe!

    Much Love,
    Jane | The Bandwagon Chic

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  14. I think yes, but it really depends on your personal feeling ! Love the boots babe !

    https://www.pardonmyobsession.com/2018/04/in-other-news.html

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  15. Love this look! The jumper is so pretty!

    Gemma x
    www.jacquardflower.uk

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  16. I told my closest friends as soon as I started and later on most of my family members and other friends knew about it. However, I know that not many of them are reading my posts and that's ok, they didn't show much interest to read it, I know that they find it strange how I put myself out there. :)

    Yiota
    pinkdaisyloves.blogspot.com

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  17. I think I only told my immediate family and two of my best friends when I started it. I really didn't want anyone else knowing and judging, if that makes sense. But now, a lot more of my family know and they find it interesting xx

    tipscapsule.blogspot.com

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  18. This is a really interesting topic. I'm so weird in the sense that I'd happily show strangers my blog as well, but a lot of my family members don't know! Now though more and more people in my family and circles are finding out, and for the most part I'm happy with it but sometimes with some family members, I kind of wish they didn't know...

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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  19. I've been blogging since back in the day when everyone kept a personal journal (literally on livejournal) and back then blogging and making friends on the internet wasn't as common as it is now, so aside from the irl friends I had who did the same thing, and the internet friends I made who became irl friends, I didn't really tell other people about it.

    My parents and a lot of my family aren't particularly interested in blogs so I haven't really bothered to tell them to check it out just because I don't feel the need to, but certainly these days I'm far less self-conscious about the whole thing and because I'm friends with say, some of my cousins on instagram, therefore they've seen the link to my blog and know about it because of that. Because my blog is mostly beauty focused, if I get onto that topic with say, people from work, then I might mention I have a blog, but if it never comes up then I probably won't say anything. It's a bit of a weird thing in that I don't go out of my way to bring it up and tell everyone I know about it, but when it does come up I'm much happier telling people about it now than I was in the past and I would say most of my friends know about it, although I don't know if they read it or not, haha.

    littlehenrylee.net

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  20. That's so great that your friends + fam have been supportive- that is the best!

    Loving those statement boots, sista!

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

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  21. It took me ages to tell people about my blog even my close family and friends! I told a few at first and then gradually more and now I'll just tell anyone! Responses are only ever positive and if people weren't supportive then I suppose I'd just know who my real friends were!
    Amy xx
    callmeamy.co.uk

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  22. This is such an interesting topic. I have only shared my blog with my closest family. It is a lot easier for me to share more personal stuff on my blog when I know that people I know in real life can´t read it. BTW I love that pink sweater. So cute!

    xx Freja
    http://whatmakesmesmileblog.com/

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  23. I found it difficult to share previous blogs with family because of how personal they were. I am not sure why sharing your business with strangers is sometimes easier! However as my latest blog is more professional, it's way easier to share with loved ones!

    Madeline
    www.madelinewilsonojo.com

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  24. it's such a simple question but for a long time I didn't want to share my blog with my friends and family. I was finding my footing and didn't know what I was doing. But now that I've been blogging for over 5 years I have no problem sharing my blog with everyone. Love those boots :)

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  25. Oh my... those OTK boots with the stiletto heels are so sexy! :)

    Looking fabulous! :)

    YouTube | Blog: Geekette in High Heels | Instagram

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  26. You look amazing, Gabrielle. I think it is good to share your blog with family and friends. I did that from day 1 and they've been very supportive.
    Wonder Cottage 

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  27. I love your thoughts on this topic! It's always been hard for me to decide.

    NO BASIS IN REALITY | LATEST POST | INSTAGRAM

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  28. Omg Gabrielle can't even start replying to your question because I'm here drooling over that whole outfit, especially the boots! They're F-I-E-R-C-E, I'm obsessed.
    As for the main subject of this post, I shared my blog when I first started -I announced it on facebook and invited all my friends and contacts to Like the fanpage. A bit of a bold move for sure, lol. So yes, my direct family knows about it and my closest friends too, the rest might have probably forgotten that fact about me hehe. They don't check out the blog tho, they mostly catch up on social media and if there's soemthing they really like they will let me know :)
    xx

    www.stylebydeb.com

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  29. I've had the SAME thoughts about this topic. It's funny how blogging can seem like this secret life you live because it initially feels awkward to share it with the people closest to you. But I've definitely been more open about it now that I feel semi established, and Ben shares our posts on his FB, so that kind of got the word out quickly haha. I completely agree though that if you have a positive relationship, their reaction should be support and never judgmental. Idk how anyone could be anything other than proud of you though. I adore this blog!

    Susie | http://milehighdreamers.com

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  30. I dont think theres anything wrong in sharing your blog with fam and friends but from personal experience their not really bothered lol! I've learned to realise their not my target audience and not take it too personally when they havent read my last blog post. Ultimately we blog for people who WANT to read and interact with us, that happens not to be my fam and friends but thats ok. - x

    Lavinya Royes - Fashion & Lifestyle Blog

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  31. Such an interesting topic indeed. Well, yes, the closest family and friends knows about my website! To me it came natural as I early on knew that this is what I'm gonna do for some years now, so of course I told people what I was doing besides studying. It has honestly been a lovely experience as these people are supporting me endlessly and I think you need that boost. Hope you're having a lovely week hun! Xx

    www.thefashionfolks.com

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  32. LOVE that topic! So great, that you talk about it!
    When I started back in 2014 I was too ashamed to tell anyone except my bf and two best friends! But now I think everyone knows that I am blogging and they support me even more than I ever thought they would!
    P.s.: I'm obsessed with those fancy over the knee boots ♡
    xx
    Selina | Selina's Inspiration

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  33. This is a really interesting post and actually something that I find myself thinking about quite a lot. I only really share my blog address with people that I'm quite close to as I find that there are always lots of questions (that I'm happy to answer!). Beautiful pictures too, you really suit pink!
    Have a lovely day :)
    Rosanna x
    Rose's Rooftop

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  34. This powder pink sweater is so cute :) Lots of love! Wonderful post dear
    Beauty and Fashion Freaks

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  35. My family knows about my blog - and about my youtube channel! - and they're happy! They never asked me uncomfortable questions or reacted in a negative way, on the contrary, they are always very encouraging! On the other hand it is something that I like to do, so why not?
    I like when I can trust in my family and friends!
    xoxo
    www.milleunrossetto.blogspot.it

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  36. I have discussed my blog with families and friends and so far so good. Some don't understand why I do it and I tell em they ain't gotta worry about that. Ha!!
    You look effortlessly amazing and so beautiful.

    http://missymayification.co.uk

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  37. This is a really interesting question! Personally, I feel quite happy talking about my blog to friends and family, although I wouldn't necessarily mention it if it doesn't come up in conversation. However with people I know less I don't tend to mention it - for fear of judgement, mostly. I understand why it can take a lot to talk to people about being a blogger, since there's still a lot of misinformation about it - but so long as you trust people, it should always be alright!

    Julia x
    Last Post: The £2 Hair Routine That Works | http://juliaspeaksbeauty.blogspot.co.uk/2018/04/beauty-2-hair-routine-that-works.html

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  38. Amazing boots! I share only my blog with my best friends, but never with family, co-workers and other friends since for many people blogging is a thing to treat you worse :(

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  39. First of all, you look stunning! Perfect outfit. <3 I've only told a few people about my blog but last year my friends ended up "discovering" it. I was a bit scared to share it (no idea why) but they ended being really supportive so I'm happy about it. :D
    www.thefancycats.pt

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  40. You always look so chic, I love the pink + black combo! In all my years of blogging I've never actively shared my blog with anyone in real life. A few do know about it because it's on my Instagram and they follow me there, and I feel very fortunate that they've been nothing but supportive :)

    Jenny | Geeky Posh

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  41. You know, I've actually been thinking about this quite a lot myself. It's not like there's anything on my blog that I would not want my friends or family to see (obviously I wouldn't publish it online then...), but I do feel strange about people who are close to me reading my thoughts about things I do not necessarily discuss with them... I feel like they might see me in a new light after reading something I wrote, even though I'm pretty sure that rarely happens (if ever). With that being said, I do share my blogs with my friends and family,even because it would be really difficult to keep them secret in the world we live in :)

    Scent of Summer

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  42. Oh love this topic, I actually have shared about my blog with my family, my college mates, school mates etc. While my family has mostly been supportive and rooting for me. I did notice some of my batch mates talking shit about me and what not. At first it did affect me and I wondered if I should change my ways or something to please them! But now I have reached to the point where I don't care what others think, my family supports me and that's it for me :)
    Hope you're having an amazing week!
    xx
    Real Girl Talks | Ankita Bardhan
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  43. I think it's worth to share your blog with friends and family- they can always support you in every single way :-)
    Another stunning pictures and so cute cosy outfit dear Gabrielle :-)
    Have a lovely weekend xx

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  44. The most important people know that I have my blog, but not the whole family.Pretty pics <3

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  45. It took me a while to share my blog with family and friends and once I did it was interesting to see who actually started reading it. The people I thought wouldn't be interested were actually the ones starting to read it but thankfully so far I have not received any negative comments. Have a lovely weekend, Gabrielle xx

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  46. Great post! :) I shared my blog with my friends and family from the very beginning and I think it was nice to know they appreciate what I do :) They always share their opinion with me, which means a lot! <3

    MERI WILD BLOG

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  47. My bestest friends know I blog, but they know that apart from the usual "Honey has to take photos so don't eat first", they don't really care much - because they know that there's more to me than my blog. =)

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  48. Those boots are stunning, and I love your cosy pink knit! :)

    I shared my blog with friends and family from the beginning. When all the parcels starter arriving at work, my colleagues quickly knew too haha! It's often my ice breaker 'fun fact' when I have to introduce myself to a new team, everyone is fascinated by my blog and I've had nothing but supportive comments about it. Of course my mum is my biggest fan, haha!

    Hope you are having a great week so far! Been a wet week here, but still not too cold :)

    Away From The Blue Blog

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  49. I just found your blog and I'm in love! When I read your posts it feels as though I'm having a conversation with you – keep up the good work.

    beingisabella.com

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  50. Oh to tell or not to tell... I've always been pretty upfront about my blog since I originally started it to support my photography business and it kind of grew into it's own thing. Most of my friends are cool about it and some of them even read my blog and every so often, I'll get asked questions about something I wrote about :p Another smashing outfit Gabrielle! Those boots make your legs look even longer than they are if that's possible ~_^

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  51. My family including my in-laws know about my blog though I can't include photos of them in my posts but they are cool about it. But nobody knows in my work circle which is what I like because I don't want to mix my personal matters in my work environment. I like your pink jumper and OTK boots, they really suit you. Looking gorgeous always dear.

    www.busyandfab.com

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  52. Fantastic outfit, so gorgeous and interesting! Love it!
    www.recklessdiary.ru

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  53. This is such a nice read dear. My take on it is yes, and no. I'd say yes to those people you trust and seem interested to what you do. And no, you're not obliged to tell everyone about it, even if they're your friends or family. Anyway, cute love your cute pink sweater! So adorable with the black pants and OTK boots.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

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  54. I love your outfit especially the otk boots. I regret that I told mine. Catching too much attention, I feel uneasy

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  55. I think yes because it's a part of yourself, and they can get to know you better through reading.
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  56. Hello gabrielle !!
    I had the blog in secret for 5 years, it was only last year that I revealed the secret. Many people were surprised. But now I tell all the people I like and I am proud of the work I do.
    And I love your sweater and boots I'm already craving for them.
    Good weekend.
    xoxo

    marisasclosetblog.com

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  57. You look gorgeous as usual! Loving those boots on you, and you always have the best locations for your shoots!

    I have only told my blog name to direct family. So my mum, dad and my nan when she was alive. My brother also knows, but being a boy, he doesn't care. I know a lot of my extended family do see it though because of social media, but I don't like to talk about it or anything in person because of the constant questions. I feel like as my blog is an extension of my life, I'm not comfortable exposing so much of my life in person to family members or friends I rarely see, as you wouldn't have those conversations in real life with them to start with. So it's definitely about whether it can cross over or not. It's a difficult subject. I remember when I did a couple of campaigns for some well known underwear companies (very tasteful) and I had cold sweats when the posts went live, worried about what my dad would say or anyone else lol.

    Raindrops of Sapphire

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  58. I have always received positive responses from family and friends. As well as coworkers and potential coworkers. This pink sweater is so pretty on you and looks great with black.

    Allie of ALLIENYC
    www.allienyc.com

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  59. love this look hon... the boots look great x
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  60. Great post! it definitely took me time to open up about my blog with family but I am glad I did =o)

    https://dreamofadventures.com/

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  62. First of all, can we talk about those amazing boots for a second? I am in love! You have great style Gabrielle, love your look from head to toe <3

    Secondly, speaking about whether to share your blog with friends and family, I must admit that for a very long time I did not want to tell my friends I had one. It wasn't until I was 2 years in, when I have finally to come out of the closet. My family always knew and rooted for me, but I can't say the same about say ex-classmates for example. Actually, from my experience, greater support came from boys (although I have a beauty blog) while a lot of my girlfriends were a bit subscribe/unsubscribe about it. I guess my point is, I would never force anyone to follow me (best friends included, so I am not mad at them or anything like that) and it is so amazing that we get a chance to meet and make new (like-minded, beauty obsessed) friends like yourself! I've met a lot of incredible people thus far and thank my blog for it every single day! xx

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  63. You look amazing!Love those boots:-)

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  64. LOVED this post from start to finish gorgeous Gabrielle, such an interesting topic that I'm so glad you spoke about! I'm so pleased you've had nothing but positive reactions from family members and friends as that's what you 100% deserve :) You are so right - their reactions should always be free from judgement and it tells a lot about someone and their support once you've told them about your blog. I've gotta say I'm loving this gorgeous outfit on you beaut, pink paradise for sure! :D

    In all honesty I regret telling most of my family about my blog from the off - there are a few relatives that I don't see but have caused trouble through my blog, and I've had the same with them repeatedly following me on social media channels under different accounts (despite me blocking them time and time again). Once I wrote an honest post and discussed it a little and then they started making my mum feel guilty. I always feel like a lot of family members who I'm not close to use my blog as a tool to check up on me, when they can't make the effort in real life. That's a major downside to blogging for me, so I think if I could do it over again I would only have told my mum and kept my blog a secret from most family members <3

    I definitely think the good aspects of blogging outweigh the downsides though, even though it feels like a lot of people blog nowadays, it also feels like you have a real connection with other bloggers that no one else can quite understand so that's really lovely and positive and uplifting! <3 <3

    Sophie | soinspo xo

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