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Sunday, 8 July 2018

The Instagram Debate | Comparison Vs Inspiration

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Oof, we've all been there.  Happily scrolling through the explore page of Instagram admiring dreamy tulle dresses and extravagant strawberry cakes and then something, something makes you think 'oh'.  Maybe it's an oh I'd rather be there in Venice licking a gelato. Or perhaps an oh picking blooms from a field of flowers seems way more appealing than doing my emails right now.  But I'm curious, at what point did it become a case of comparisons and cause for alarm?  I've been fascinated by this topic for a very, veeeeery long time. Let me know if I'm in the minority, but I still find Instagram to be a massive source of daydream material.  It's ooh and ahh inducing, in a 'I know that photo took ages to setup, but it's still beautiful' kind of way.  You know?  Let's discuss...
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Needless to say, the biggest issue is undoubtedly younger users on the app mistaking everything they see for reality.  I'll admit, I'm hugely relieved Instagram reached popularity once I'd seen through the teenage years because going by what my younger cousin has told me, it sounds like a literal minefield for younger users.  But that's a topic for another day.  What about adult users?  We know not to take what we see as gospel, and yet still manage to occasionally allow ourselves to be pulled down by the app.  Comparison is literally the thief of joy (my fave quote - ahem, minus the 'literally'), and it hits even harder when you're seeing it through a screen.  It leads us to compare the very worst of ourselves to the very best of others.  Or more to the point, their photos.

But imma stop you right there.  The pendulum needs to swing back and place us all in the 'ooh that's inspiring' camp again that we were so firmly based in when we first downloaded the app.  Ultimately, we're in charge of how we interpret things (images included) and so we can either hop on Instagram, start scrolling and rack up a load of comparisons to ruin our evening.  Or, we can take images for what they are.  Beautiful, knowingly edited to match a feed's aesthetic and often very, very inspiring.

Daydream material; nothing more, nothing less.

Marks & Spencer Pink Peony BouquetAs I mentioned earlier, I've always taken a huge interest in this topic and mainly because it seems to divide opinion so drastically.  So, let me know in the comments below - how do you feel about Instagram?  Do you find it's become a source of unfair comparisons, or do you also seek inspiration from the app?

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With love,

Gabrielle x

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  1. As usual, I LOVE THIS. And it's so true. I am so thankful I grew up with JUST MySpace (actually, could've done without that too), and I can't imagine trying to navigate my teens with all the other social media that exists nowadays. I find myself guilty of comparison but have gotten way better at reminding myself of exactly what you said - these are just beautiful photos capturing one moment in the persons life, and they probably didn't feel like posting themselves a few hours previous with their burrito food baby :). Ben likes to say that 'comparison sucks all of the color out of life' and I adore this quote. I'd much rather feel inspired!

    Susie | http://milehighdreamers.com

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  2. Hello Gabrielle, sorry I haven't been so active I took a break to enjoy my vacation. You are making a good point and this is an interesting subject! I gotta be honest, I've done it both! I spent my first year dreaming about how I want to be like her or her, how I would to travel like her or her or look that way and when things didn't work out for me the way I expected I got completely disappointed and depressed. But at this point, I don't think like that anymore. From experience I've learned that things are not as they in the photo, these days sometimes I can even spot when it's fake and I don't feel like comparison anymore as I am happy with the way I evolve in my way weird way. I do get inspired a lot by someone's style but that's something else. I've always admired your style and by the way we have the same denim skirt :)

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  3. Yees, instagram can be a great inspiration as it can also be a little depressing. I do feel like it has a bigger effect on the younger users. Even though I sometimes end up comparing myself or my life to the "life" of other people on instagram, I can now stop myselft and think: "it's just a photo".
    I can't say this enough, you're gorgeous! <3
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  4. Very nice post,pretty photos as always 😻

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  5. I really like it how you styled your denim skirt!
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
    www.dressedwithsoul.com

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  6. I love this post and that point of changing it from comparison to inspiration is amazing advice. I too am very grateful I was not a teenager during instagram- ah those simple myspace days hahaha- but even now as an adult I am guilty of comparing myself and I think it's just because Insta is the place to grow my blog and my business so its hard not to take it as something so important. Nonetheless, I know I need to step back and when i stopped taking it as seriously, it was literally a breathe of fresh air!

    THE WHIMSICAL WILDLING

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  7. Yes, social media should be about inspiration and people lifting each other up! Unfortunately, it's not always the case and sometimes we feel like we're missing certain experiences or not living the ideal lifestyle. It's all about balance and paying attention to your mental health state, in my opinion :)
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  8. I did a technology detox a while back that made me reflect on the way I use it, including social media. It really helped me see that there's a difference between 'I wish I had that' and 'I could / want to do that' type inspiration. I make sure to only follow accounts that give me the good inspiration. If they make me feel bad, it's not worth following.

    I think ti's natural to compare a little, but I do try not do it so much now. Never compare your behind the scenes to someone else's highlight reel!

    Hope you had a wonderful weekend and your week is off to a good start! :)

    Away From The Blue Blog

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  9. There is so much truth in here, Gabrielle! I really am becoming increasingly concerned about how younger users are viewing what they see on social media. It seems that the older generation understands that it's a highlight reel and, most of the time, a very scripted view of what life really looks like. I fear that youth are mistaking it for reality and believe that they now have to live up to these ridiculous expectations being set.

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  10. I liked this post, in my opinion we need to balance the reality and what's exposed for us, we all know that just because someone post a picture in a fascinating place, is doesn't mean that this person is there at the moment.


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    Jessica
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  11. I think us as a society are filled with insecurities and the rise of social medias only pour fuel to the existing fire. I'm lucky that I am mature enough to know 99.9% of the shitz out there are faked and staged but for a teenager growing up in today's world? It's tough.

    Shireen⎜Reflection of Sanity

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  12. I agree that it can be really dangerous so I make an effort just to look for inspiration, I never compare!
    Have a lovely day :)
    Rosanna x
    Rose's Rooftop

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  13. I'm mainly on Pinterest these days and having a major crush on all things interior right now. And all I can think is, damn there are actually people living in these places, but I try to remind myself that it doesn't look that perfect all the time and also that I can make the most of my place. Haha! Same goes for food and yummy recipes, I want to do more of that! Xx

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  14. Another blogger recommendation brought me here. I am old enough ( not a millennial) to know this is all staged. It is very aesthetically pleasing and fun to look at. Myself, when I take really staged photo, I try to make a sarcastic comment about it. I just can’t take it seriously: nobody wakes up in a perfect bed, with perfect skin, Kinfolk magazine just lying there and coffee ready made from an Italian espresso machine. It is just for aesthetic. What I find boring personally, is not the fact that these images are staged. I am bored with insta bloggers who all start to look the same. We should make an effort to start to look for inspiration elsewhere, than just from one another. How many times have seen a girl in a towel on her hea, wearing cat eye sunglasses??? It is is becoming really old. I started posting in my stories images from late 70s and early 80s. All current trends are from that era. Let’s start digging, and looking at these more, maybe it will make our feed more refreshing.

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  15. There is a really fine line between comparison and inspiration when it comes to Instagram and you make some very salient observations here Gabrielle. I resisted joining Instagram for the longest time and when I finally did it was more for photography inspiration than anything and I mostly follow photographers. I don't really have time for the overly staged "lifestyle" accounts. The key is knowing that most of that isn't real.

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  16. Amazing post, dear! A big hello from Germany!
    Hugs ♥

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  17. I'm also so glad that I didn't grow up with Instagram - it must be so confusing! I think if I do get Instagram FOMO it's not necessarily because I wish I was doing what that person is doing, but that I wish I could take photos as nice as them so I just try and check myself and feel inspired rather than jealous!
    Amy xx
    callmeamy.co.uk

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  18. For me personally Instagram is a source of inspiration. I love love scrolling through tones of beautiful images and admire creativity of people. 💖💞😘

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  19. You bring up a good point Gabrielle! I think no matter how much a person says that they only use Instagram for inspiration, at some point or another we're bound to be comparing our lives, and even more ourselves with what we see through the screen. Starting a blog was probably one of the best decisions I've ever made for many reasons. One of those being that I now have a much better sense what goes on behind the scenes for other influencers. This has helped me to not compare myself to everything I see but instead be inspired from it, and might I even say, learn from it. If there's something that I look at longingly, I ask myself why! Most of the time it's pointless, but sometimes it's not and that leads me to live my life more fully!

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  20. I always love when you open this kind of debates Gabrielle!! Instagram is a very interesting topic to me as well but I think that we should be careful with comparision not only in social media but also in life in general because sometimes we tend to think that everybody else has a perfect life and the truth is that we are not seeing the whole picture. Everybody has their ups and downs, so we have to keep in mind that on Instagram we are only seeing the ups, which sometimes they are not even real "ups", they are just a photoshoot. So, I absolutely agree with you that we have to take it as a source of inspiration and beautiful images and keep in mind the hard work that goes behind every dreamy photo we see :)

    Have a lovely week babe!!!

    Andrea.

    Seize your Style

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  21. Such a great post hun!
    xx- Nina

    http://www.stylingwithnina.com/2018/07/must-have-floral-top-i-was-featured-in.html

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  22. Very nice topic, to be honest, I loved Instagram in the starting days. I was happy that I got a place where I can share my daily life pics freely but gradually, it became a professional place. A mad competition everywhere. 'How many likes' 'how many followers' all things made me tired. I never compare my pics with others but yes, some pics inspire me.
    Coming to your outfit, you look so girly and beautiful in this skirt and top. Love the flowers.
    Have a great day <3
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  23. Hello again! Hope you've been well Gabrielle. I've been away from the blog scene (and social media) for a while now and what a way to return with this article! Love it. This is something I am constantly contemplating myself. I suffer hugely from FOMO (it was and is one of the reasons why I find myself disconnecting) and it's hard not to really. Even with the understanding that all images are completely curated, edited and selected to show you a certain image or view of the person. Not all is seemingly what it seems but it can be hard not beating yourself up when you're inundated with travelgrams and gelati's on the Amalfi Coast. I struggle with this myself, so I can't begin to imagine what it is like for teens. I remember how much pressure it was to be a teen back then, and that was a time when the internet was for MSN chatrooms and Neopets hahaha! I can't imagine what it's like for them now. Everyone is trim, plumped lips (and butts) and traveling the world before graduating High School. Imagine the pressure. I really feel for these guys. If I struggle, imagine someone who knows no better.

    Sxx
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  24. I think you hit the nail in the head with this one, Gabrielle. Instagram might have started as a platform for everyone to be more creative, but it has now become a bit of cloning machine. I do find lots of inspiration still, particularly in fashion and fashion photography, but also lots of ads and irrelevant content. I do fear that the younger users will think that all they see on IG is the reality and feel the pressure to live up to stupid standards :( You look absolutely gorgeous with that bouquet, babe! Xx

    Saida | She talks Glam

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  25. Such an insightful post girl! Social media can be the best thing on earth, but unfortunately people tend to not know the best way to perceive it! Glad we grew with less technologies, because now we know how to deal with it :)
    With love,
    xx

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  26. You're making a good point here,
    But I still want to believe Instagram is more about inspiration even if well sometimes It feels like we all just see the same pictures, like the same fashion girl in a beautiful summer field or this other fashion girl in front of cereals in the supermarket.
    I think I usually prefer the accounts who are more spontaneous and more about the true life and not just the dreamy life.
    xx
    Margot
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  27. "Daydream material, nothing more, nothing less"- -I love that so much! I need to remember that every time I scroll through the app to be honest, because even though I know that when you're just scrolling it can be hard to remember. SO glad Instagram wasn't around when I was a teen as well, that just would've made everything so much harder.

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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  28. Such a great topic to talk about!! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I personally love Instagram - love getting inspiration from there but at times it can get a bit depressing x

    Adventures in May | Miss Nev

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  29. It is not just the younger generation there are adults committing suicide because of it and some of them are middle age. I think if you are not a blogger, influencer, or business you may not know that a lot of it is staged and then you start to compare yourself and what you have achieved against others perceived accomplishments which is a natural human trait to a certain extent. Most people in the business know it is not real but may feel left behind their peers if they do not get enough likes or engagement to compete for the big money campaigns. I'm sure there are numerous other reasons as well but these two stand out to me the most.
    LaToya
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  30. Such an interesting debate!
    Lovely outfit babe! and these flowers....
    Have a nice evening :D
    Olivia Poncelet <3
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  31. It can be so hard because it's such an important part of our days! I always feel like everyone is traveling so much except me, but then I realize that I'm only seeing that content from a handful of people, not every single person I know.

    xx,
    Meredith
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  32. Not sure what to think of IG sometimes. It has positives for sure, sharing beautiful pics, staying connected with friends, coworkers and family. Meeting new people. But also a dark side for sure. And I would be curious about a post on how IG effects younger people.

    Lovely photos BTW.

    Allie of
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  33. Love these photos. This post is so real and I love it. I agree with Shireen's comments above. Everything is staged our carefully curated and its best not to read into it!

    x, S | Je M'appelle Chanel

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  34. Everything has its both bad and good impacts..it totally depends on a person how to use Instagram whether he/she can take inspiration and try to do better.. or start unnecessary comparison.. but obviously I am talking about mature adults...For teenagers it is tough to draw a line in between....great post...❤️

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  35. To be honest I love instagram though you are right about the comparison.
    I can see that only accounts who have a large number of followers get notice and even make it as an algorithm in this app.

    Btw, you look amazing as always

    Much Love,
    Jane | The Bandwagon Chic

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  36. Thank goodness I am not often fooled by people's photos online especially in Instagram. I studied photography back in college and I know what often happens behind the scenes. Before Instagram we already do tricks, either in real life or through Photoshop how to make a photo look great. A lot of people often asked us students back then how we do it or where do we do the shoot and often times they're so surprise it wasn't as it seems :) I wish more younger people will realize that someone's life is not as perfect as their Instagram feeds.

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  37. First of all, you look dreamy Gabrielle! I am loving your stunning bouquet! Secondly, I have to agree - I am happy IG appeared when I was not an impressive teen! The explorer page is almost like an "evil" page so to speak. You see so much staged stuff, it is crazy. I mean, I get it. Those photographs are beautiful, stunning even. Too bad they don't represent the reality! This is why I prefer to follow people like yourself, someone I can relate to. I guess we all should remember that life is life and IG is just a collection of "perfect" images that people like to share now and again xx

    Naya
    partyparrotblog.com

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  38. Very interesting post!!! I also love your photos and think it's so important to talk about these kinds of topics!

    xx Sofia | SOFIAADOT

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  39. Hello
    I see Instagram as a tool to inspire me for my work, but I realize that for young people it can be quite frustrating to see all those beautiful pictures of things / places / clothes and not having access to them !!!
    A most famous Portuguese blogger was to do a job to a tourist agency in Brazil and the contract should include 1000 photos on instagram, so there were always pictures of her in the pool, in the hotel restaurant, in the private beach, in the gym, they were photos all the time. And I thought this is too much for those who cannot afford a vacation of those, all that exhibitionism was too much, I decided I had to do something and I commented a photo with the following: This already stinks !!!
    It was not for me but for those who would be affected by not being able to have it.
    Money can not go over everything we have the obligation to be conscientious bloggers. It's my opinion!!!





    Lots of love
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  40. I totally agree with your view of Instagram Gabrielle! To me it's mostly daydreaming material, and instead of thinking "I wish I was" when I see a beautiful photo is a pretty location, I think "one day I will" because it's down to us to visit the pretty locations, get a pretty dress after saving a lot for it or eating the delicious strawberry cake. It's all about perspective, so what you say about younger users is very true.
    I love this type of thought-inducing post, thank you for sharing your opinion on this very important matter!

    Julia x
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  41. I am quite happy that these social media platforms did not exist when I was a teen, I think it would be a tad intimidating. Some of the bloggers that I follow are fashion and lifestyle bloggers but for me and my actual inspiration, it's not from online at all. Since I use my Instagram for business and personal, I take actual shots from our shoots and events, etc. But, I often wonder, when I look at some of the perfectly shot outfits, was that the actual outfit they wore that day, in a field of lavender, with two dozen roses in tow or was it all for Instagram, lol. I also think sometimes, IG can really suck occasionally for some of us who have been in the design world professionally beforehand because now everybody calls themselves designers and stylists but that's another thing, I do love Instagram though. :) Some co-workers and I were talking about this recently with our Art Director. Interesting and lovely points here, Gabrielle. Oh, and obviously, I am finally back from my blooooog break! /Madison xx
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  42. I'll be honest, it is hard sometimes to not play the comparison game especially as a blogger since you also compare your growth to others. But I think I've learned to accept it and look at other accounts as inspo now. Plus, I've found lots of accounts outside of fashion that I just absolutely love! PS, you look stunning btw and I pinned this outfit!

    Tina
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  43. Completely agree with the statement that comparison is the thief of joy & try to take Instagram with a pinch of salt and use it mainly for inspiration. I think it is much harder for young people to understand that not every photo they see reflects reality :-)

    Miriam xx

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  44. I can’t imagine how hard it would be to grow up as a teenager these days, in the age of Instagram! It was hard enough before Instagram was around, but now it must be so much worse, I really feel for the younger generation on that note.

    I agree that nothing constructive comes out of comparing yourself to others, especially if you habitually scroll through Instagram doing just that. I do find Instagram to be a source of inspiration at times, but I can totally see how easy it is to fall into that trap of jealous and comparison. I’m really quite good at just putting my phone away if that feeling starts to creep up on me because I just don’t want to have to deal with it because I know it’s not a positive thing in any way, but I know a LOT of people can’t make themselves look away so easily. I would love it if, in an ideal world, it could go back to just being a source of inspiration and happiness, but I suppose it comes down to how you like to use the app, and also how happy you are with your own life. We can’t all be everywhere and be everything all at the same time, there are always going to be people having different experiences that we would also like to have, and they’re going to post it online for the world to see, but it’s about fostering a feeling of happiness for others rather than misery for ourselves. If you’re in a good mood Instagram can be a great place to spend time, but if you’re not in a good place it’s can be awful. Unfortunately it’s a very tricky thing to navigate but like I said, if it’s making me feel bad then I just put it down and walk away because I know it’s not worth the emotional energy it will take from me.

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  45. Oooohh. Great topic. I actually know what you mean. I'm glad that I'm over my crucial teenage years before social media became as toxic as it is now. When I was 15-16, Facebook was just gaining popularity amongst my peers. Smart phones and wifi was not as prevalent also. Social media really just exploded when smart phones with nice cameras were already affordable for everyone. Also, that a wifi network is also now a requirement for every business and household. I actually lost my Facebook account and honestly, this was one of the best things that had happened to me. I created a new one, but I only added my close friends and family. No more posts from an acquaintance about how "fake" nice her life is or whatever. Just photos of my cousins and nephews and some fake news article that my aunts share. Haha. It's not Instagram, but kinda the same thing. :D



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  46. I'm so glad I grew up mostly without social media, because I can see how the environment can quickly turn toxic, ie. go from inspiration to jealousy and comparison. Even now I still occasionally find myself comparing, and that's when I know I have to take a break from Instagram. For the most part I prefer to find my inspiration on Pinterest, it's much less stressful compared to other platforms ☺️

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  47. Thanks for another insightful read Gabs! It’s kind of crazy how fast and just how big social media blew up. It’s an amazing thing but it does have its downsides. I think it’s kind of funny how most of us know what’s portrayed on social media is not a true representation of reality, yet we still hold ourselves up to the ridiculous standards in these photos and videos which we are bombarded with every day. I think it’s important to realise that every life is different and we shouldn’t compare ourselves to where someone else is in life. Your favourite quote is one of my favourites too. Comparison really can be the thief of joy!

    SHANNON VALLE
    life + style blog

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  48. It's true. Sometimes we look at posts for inspiration but end up falling into the a black hold called comparison. Social media nowadays can either brighten someone's day or bring them to the ground. It's hard sometimes because our lives are constantly affected by social media content. Like you mentioned, we should use pretty photos as a source for daydreaming. :)

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  49. What a great post I think it is all about inspiration because you see something let's say a pose for example and you go out and try to do the same thing and guess what? It never becomes exactly like you saw so it is not a copy it is inspiration that has been created with a personal touch and it becomes original and I love that because I end up with something completely different and if it is in my gallery it is because I loved and it is me all over it You look gorgeous by the way Lovely flowers xoxo Cris
    https://photosbycris.blogspot.com/2018/07/glamour-in-park.html

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  50. Hi Gabrielle - I loved this post! I totally think its a problem how instagram has drifted away from creativity and is more about the likes. Love your honesty in this post!

    xx lindsay | lindsayfuce.com

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  51. thank you for bringing this up! totally agree that instagram should be seen as a source of inspiration, not comparison

    xoxo
    style frontier

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  52. I personally like to always look on the bright side of things, so I see instagram as huge inspiration. I love the creativity put behind my favorite accounts!

    www.fashionradi.com

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  53. I do agree that it must be hard for the teens nowadays, with all the social media pressure, but adults can get caught up into it as well. My relationship with insta is lukewarm, I like it but I don't spend much time using it. Love these photos, you look so pretty.

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  54. as you said, I see instagram for what it is: a source of inspiration and a set of many beautiful (sometimes fake) photos.
    I like it because it makes me dream, I do not like it because, at times, it shows the worst of us.
    xoxo
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  55. I used to compare few years back, but what others are portraying, but how perfect their feed looks. -But stopped because it was driving crazy. I felt like my feed wasn't good enough as a blogger, but anyway all that is behind me.
    You look wonderful Gabrielle. Lovely flowers!

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  56. It's a great discussion. There's many bloggers I follow who have the most amazing content and travel everywhere, which can often induce those feelings of missing out, however I know they spend hours getting these photos and are probably not actually enjoying the holiday as much as they could be. I often get annoyed by the fakeness though, I see SO many bloggers and influencers with fake accounts. Faking their followers etc and it's so frustrating. That often leads to comparison issues because you wonder at first why they're doing 'better than you' and then you dig deeper and find out it's fake, yet other brands don't do that and will often choose to work with them based on numbers. It's a messy place! I always lover your posts!

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  57. Firstly you look so pretty here , love the flowers and secondly, I totally agree with you. Instagram is a huge source of inspiration for me too..but the amount of fake accounts and followers around lately is disheartening to say the least.. xx

    www.fashionjazz.co.za

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  58. Hello lovely!! These photos are beautiful! I think Instagram can be both really. Some people like to use them to escape the real world and others like to show the real world or close enough to it. And I think both are fine. What I often don't like is when people look down or criticise others for not having perfect photos or having perfect photos. I like seeing both because it makes me daydream but also find fun in seeing that not everyone's day runs as smoothly as one thinks it does. But, the dreamy photos push me to be more creative and see possibilities. What I don't like about Instagram is the fake followers or accounts, the people that follow to unfollow after you follow them. Or those who think they have the right to say anything they wish on your photos - like in regards to a person's weight, looks and so on. But, for the most part I really love Instagram being a visual person. Sorry for writing a novel on your post, haha!! Hope you have a lovely week xx

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  59. Instagram is, sadly, taken too seriously by young people, mostly teens, as they look for idols and perfection on a social network that allows everyone to create the illusion of having a perfect life and flawless looks. I personally love looking for inspiration there, and also Tumblr and Pinterest, but no one should compare themselves with what they see on social media, it’s murder for one’s self-esteem. This is an awesome topic to talk about. 😊


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  60. Instagram for me is an inspiration <3 Wonderful post dear <3
    Beauty and Fashion Freaks

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  61. This is such an important topic gorgeous girl, one I'm always so interested in too! I love Instagram as a platform, I find it a much safer and more uplifting place than Twitter and even though it gets so much negativity thrown its way, I think it's still a brilliant source of inspiration and positivity. There have been times (and on Twitter too) where you get that "oh" feeling you so rightly mentioned. I try and use that as fuel to inspire me to work towards my own goals whilst at the same time taking a break from social media when it's getting dangerously close to making me feel a bit down and/or seeing the photos for what they are - gorgeous but only a snapshot of someone else's day and not their entire life <3

    You made such a valid point about younger users, it's so worrying the pressure it heaps upon young teens in this day and age. I was only thinking the other day that I'm so relieved I didn't have the added pressure of all the social media platforms when I was growing up - MSN was enough to stress me out haha! I'm glad a lot of us seem to be realising that comparison is the thief of joy, there seems to be more awareness to look beyond people's photos now and not to take what you see so literally. Thank you so much for speaking out about it beautiful! I'm sure this post will resonate with all of us. You're looking so beautiful surrounded by pink blooms too, I ADORE your skirt! <3

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  62. That is a great quote..
    For me instagram is just a place I go to see pretty pictures.

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  63. AMAZZZZZING flowers!!! AMAZZZZING and stunning pics! LOVVVVE!
    kisses
    xoBeckerman Girls

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  64. I feel like Instagram, is a great platform to promote your creativity and what inspires you. Especially, if you are a frequent traveller like myself. I work with different brands and photographers and creative directors so it is a great way to keep in contact with them. Plus, family and friends who follow. I think the major issue is when people look at one persons photo and compare to their own. Everyone is different and has different theme's or creativity that isn't going to be everyones cup of tea. I think instead of people wasting there energy on comparing they should go back to being inspired. That way they can enjoy what Instagram was originally intended to be for. I loved this topic and your way of discussing it is perfect. I think getting inspired like you mentioned, is the way most people should go :) I love your photos that skirt is amazing gorgeous. http://www.bauchlefashion.com/2018/07/sale-alert-few-moda-wishlist-fall-look.html

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  65. Such an interesting post! Its so true, as much as I love Instagram I'm glad it wasn't around when I was a kid. Its so easy to take everything on face value and feel inadequate because of it. I always try and remind myself that we all show the best bits but that doesn't mean that's all there is xx


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  66. I'm also fascinated in this kind of post, regarding Instagram influence whether good or bad. It really needs adult supervision for minor as it can be depressing when minors take it seriously at face value. For me, it's a media where I can promote my blog so I hope I won't be comparing myself to others which I honestly can't help sometimes. I love your flower arrangement, peonies are my most favourite too bad they are not available all year long.

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  67. IG, like any other social media platform, has its own pros and cons. And yes, many times the cons are prevalent and can be quite frustrating. I just wish many younger IG users read this post, thanks for sharing dear. Anyway, you look lovely as always!

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  68. I see your point. I've been there. Is I feel down for some reason I tend to avoid ig as much as I can/ because, you know, I am here, I am pathetic and sad and 'oh' comes, I would be so very much better eating ice cream somewhere in Italy (which is worse if I just came back from 'oh' destination). However it is a part of life, I don't see such dreams as something massively bad, it's just life. It wasn't insta in my teenage year, movies, tv and magazines were.

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  69. Love this!! And your beautiful photos!

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