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Sunday, 10 March 2019

Am I An Adult Yet? | The Mid-Twenties Debate

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So, you're sat there in your dressing gown on the sofa watching Netflix while working your way through a share size bar of chocolate and you're wondering - am I actually an adult?  I mean, internationally it's known for being when you turn twenty-one.  But honestly, does anyone reading this actually feel like an adult?  Just one of the reasons I love browsing Twitter (ahem, @aglassofice, if you were wondering *wink wink*), is finding the million and one mid-twenties crises taking place from others asking themselves this question.  The consensus seems to be that this internal mid-twenties debate occurs when you're in a situation where a responsible adult is needed to take control of the situation - and you realise, in horror, that you are the adult in the room.
water pouring from a fountain in winter
dainty white pussybow blouse and fur coatCould the answer lie in how much you've achieved, how far you've moved away from home, how many jobs you've worked, how many countries you've visited, how many kids you've raised, or how many responsibilities you've had?  One thing is for sure, there's no definite answer, and I think I prefer it that way.  Rather than a definitive moment that separates us from our childhoods, we're able to push our way through life and often without even realising we've become 'adult'!  Phew, what a relief.  As I've mentioned a few times now here on A Glass Of Ice, this year has brought about a lot of (welcome) change so far, including a new job and a new home in a new city.  I was sure these changes would bring about a more serious mentality that would destroy my core way of moving through life - a borderline-childlike sense of optimism while wearing rose tinted glasses, ladies and gents.  Thankfully, I was wrong.  As far as measures go, I'm pretty damn 'adult' right now - and yet I still don't feel like one!  Great!  I think?  
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hever castle at sunset in winter
glamorous brown fur coat and over the knee boots
My search history would suggest I'm very interested in this topic right now and so I'd love to hear your views on the subject!  Do you feel like an 'adult'?  Besides age, what do you think defines being an adult? Let me know in the comments below!

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With love,

Gabrielle x

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38 comments

  1. Haha, love this subject! And just talked about this with some students who recently started in our team; they thought I was 25 judging by my looks and the way I behave. I just turned 30, but I get that a lot. And it's okay because I can't really relate to the picture of a "proper" 30-year-old who's married and has 2 children. I'm not interested in that sort of life at all, instead I want to travel, build my career, party like I did when I was a student and just ignore all major responsibilities for a little while longer. But that doesn't make me any less adult, does it? :) xx

    Teresa | outlandishblog.com 💫

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  2. Oh girl I'm just about 29 with a two and a half year old toddler and I BARELY feel like an adult! haha I think it all depends on your state of mind though- if you *think* you should feel/act older, most times you do! I'd much rather still feel like I'm in my early twenties than feel like age is creeping up on me :)

    Renee @ Maritime Mama

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  3. My granny still feels like she is in her mid-twenties :) It is all about the spirit, not about the number!

    Lots of love ♥ January Girl

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  4. So when are you supposed to feel like an adult? I'm in my mid 60s and haven't got there yet. I suppose I had a brief "grown up" feeling when I held my first baby, and again when i got my first mortgage, but it was really more of a "playing at grown ups" feeling. I think all through childhood we think grown ups are sop together and in control, and it's only when we get to adulthood ourselves we realise it was all an act.

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  5. Adulting can be hard, I never really feel like an adult yet.

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  6. I don’t always feel like an adult, but having kids made me definitely feel more adult than anything else before. There is no denying the responsibility that you suddenly have once they are there.

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  7. You look amazing!!
    xx- Nina

    http://www.stylingwithnina.com/2019/03/must-have-snake-print-booties.html

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  8. I do feel like an adult, although I don't always behave as one. It is an interesting topic, you're right about that. I think that feeling adult can mean different things, some more positive, some less but I suppose it is something we need to work out ourselves- how we feel about it and so on. Times are always changing and today's world is definitely less rigid, less set in its ways. We are not expected to marry off at a young age and find whatever job is offered, but at the same time there are many options it is hard to choose, no work safety and many possible insecurities in the work place, even if one has a lot of qualifications. I can understand why a lot of mid twenties people might feel a bit overwhelmed, especially those fresh from school. The rhythm of life has changed, so many are claiming that the forties are the new thirties, the thirties the new twenties and so on...but it makes one wonder what are the twenties then- being a teenager? These are all factors that can contribute to people wondering what being adult means...It is a different world and that can feel liberating but also overwhelming sometimes.

    You look stunning dear, I really love that coat. The location is so beautiful, makes me think of Chronicles of Narnia from some reason. I have a feeling like some magical creature could pop behind that lovely fountain any minute now.

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  9. I feel like an adult, but I'm still crazy and I often have a childish mood! I think it does not matter how old you are, I became more responsible over time, but I also took a distance to many things :)

    You look so young and beautiful! Amazing place and photos <3

    MERI WILD BLOG

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  10. This is an interesting topic, I don't think I've ever thought about whether I actually felt like an adult or not. I think I placed more of an emphasis on responsibility and maturity rather than actual age. Just because I've seen so many older people who are still childish and lacking responsibility. And I love your coat by the way!

    www.sundaydahlias.com

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  11. I don't know how it feels to be an adult, there are days I am worse than a child! LOL!

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  12. Oh that water shot looks amazing and your coat is incredible. I'm past my 20s and yes I felt like an adult on my mid 20s because I migrated to another country (Australia) at that age where I was all alone so far away from my parents. But adulthood can't be measured by anything like you said, it's more of a feeling. The feeling of being confident and independent.

    www.busyandfab.com

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  13. My friends and I love to talk about this! We really don't feel like adults because we still have older people around us. And because we still have that much fun, and don't have kids.

    Xo Noor
    Www.Www.nonstopnoor.com

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  14. Hahaha babe I totally get what you say.. When you hit 30 it's even more. But being an adult is great too :)

    https://www.pardonmyobsession.com/

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  15. I do not feel like an adult at all! And I am in my mid-20s. Back when I was a teen, I seriously thought that by the time I am 30 I'd have a huge house, husband, three kids (at least!). But lately I started realizing just how different my generation is. My mom was married with two kids when she was my age. My grandpa had a solid career and four kids. I don't even have a bf (bohoo lol). Looks like people our age are constantly changing jobs, traveling to as many places as possible, exploring the world and opportunities. And frankly - I don't mind that! Let's see where this journey takes us xx

    Naya
    nayatilly.com

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  16. Honestly I'm still waiting for the day when I feel like an adult....needless to say it hasn't come yet. I thought for sure by my age now (25 tomorrow- eep!) that I'd feel like a fully fledged adult but I still don't!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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  17. You look amazing girl and this post is relatable!

    x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

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  18. I'm with you- I am an adult, but don't always feel like one! Loving these glam shots, too, girlfriend!

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

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  19. I remember my dad telling me he doesn't think he'll ever feel like an adult and at the time I just scoffed, yet here I am in my late 20s and I definitely still don't feel like one and I don't think anyone ever does!
    Amy xx
    callmeamy.co.uk

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  20. I'm in my early 30s and I only feel like an adult when I have to pay bills or do groceries! And as long as my mom is around, I morph into a 10 yr old that needs to be fed and spoiled! Haha! Love that woman
    xo Ros | ZenHealth

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  21. As far as I'm concerned there are a lot of people in their 30s with children that are still not sure that they're the adults in the room. Hahah, perhaps it'll hit us when we're in our 40s? Well well, I think optimism and positive energy is to be embraced nonetheless! Xx
    www.thefashionfolks.com

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  22. Hahaha the horror. I knew I was an adult when I actually wanted to watch the news

    Allie of
    www.allienyc.com

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  23. This is such an interesting topic and one that I feel strongly about. I would say that I act and think much more like someone in their 40s, I am responsible for a lot of things in my life and I don't depend on others much. But I try to keep the youthful inspirits, the playfulness and imaginations that I have as a kid and not let the grown-up world overwhelms me :)


    - Marina W
    http://www.waitmarinawho.com/2019/03/whimsical-wild-thoughts-in-zaandam.html

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  24. The topic of when someone feels like an adult is always so interesting to read other's opinions! I like the idea of that one day you just realize that you are an adult. I think the feeling of being an "adult" happens to everyone at different stages of life, which makes it even more exciting. Or maybe we will never feel like adults and we'll all just be grown up children. All that matters is that you enjoy life! Also, I love these photos!

    x Kara | http://karascloset.net

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  25. I'm 25 and I must say that some days I feel more like an adult than other days. I mean, I'm engaged now and very interested in politics and the news, but I also still love watching Disney movies and often spend my day off in pajamas (and probably will keep doing this), so I'm not really sure yet if I'm an adult, or just a grown up child, to be honest.

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  26. I've just entered my 30's and honestly I still feel like a kid a lot of times, but I know there are also other areas of my life where I've finally matured. I don't think I'll ever feel like an adult all the time, but having a young heart isn't always a bad thing!

    ♥︎ Geeky Posh

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  27. What a cosy coat! :) I still don't feel like an adult sometimes - and I have two kids, haha! I think we will always feel a little out of our depth sometimes and that's perfectly okay - that's what parents are for, ha! I'm often calling my mum up with questions and for advice, haha!

    Hope your week is going well :)

    Away From The Blue

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  28. What wonderful post - to be honest I'm 30 in a few months and I'm nowhere near being an adult!!

    https://thesongthatsummersings.blogspot.com/

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  29. I'm 31 this year and I honestly still don't feel like an adult, I have no idea what will make me feel like one, but I am guessing it comes from within yourself. Other people perceive you as one, but inside, there's always a debate lol. I know my dad is 58 and he says he still feels 20, so who knows, ha ha. Love the outfit!
    Raindrops of Sapphire

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  30. Thanks for sharing your post Gabrielle, at 35 years of age do I feel like an adult? In ways of thinking certainly things have changed since my 20's, literally as soon as I hit my 30's a different mind-set in terms of maturity however, one thing I have noticed growing older is that it's so important to enjoy things you enjoyed as a child. For me, camping in the south of France with my parents, where tech wasn't a thing and you had to use your mind and soul rather than tech (as much as it's wonderful to embrace it) the enjoyment of mixing with others from different cultures and having real child-like fun (playing in woodlands, drawing, making tents inside, making an ant-hotel- yes that did happen) are so much more joyful.

    I often fear so many are so keen to grow up they miss out on joy, I feel that being an adult maturely is important but that also means remembering the joy you had in your youth. My mum is in her 70's and dad isn't far off, they embrace life still and I admire the joy they embrace no matter what and that's something to aspire by for me :)

    Great post, I enjoyed this my beauty xxx
    www.shehearts.net

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  31. I am 22, almost 23, and sometimes I act like I am 10 lol :P
    I love your photos :)

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  32. I felt like I adult when I started working, but felt it strongly when I moved to the UK alone to study and live. Lol!! Adulthood is a state of mind, but I suppose most of the time we relate it to independence. Ha!! Beautiful shots dear friend.

    https://www.missymayification.co.uk

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  33. I’m 36 and I still don’t feel like a adult haha. I love these boots, and omg that jacket is so chic :) You are always so stylish Gabriella, you inspire me.
    xoxo
    mary | www.evolvewithmary.com

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  34. Personally, I think adulthood is one of those labels that we could be well without these days. I know people who are considerably younger than I am (36 in May) with a lot more hustle and responsibility, and on the flip side, people decades older who are still struggling to "get it together".
    Perhaps adulthood is simply when we have the maturity to look at our lives and say to ourselves "Not bad..." and actually find contentment?
    xx Bry Jaimea | bryjaimea.com

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  35. Ohh my... honestly I still feel like I'm 18 years old. So crazy but a lot of people I meet think I'm 10 years younger than my actual age LOL!

    www.fashionradi.com

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  36. Sometimes I do wonder what actually defines adulthood...but I don't believe in a lot of standards that people tend to mention. Personally I believe we all should live a life that makes us happy and not follow the rules/standards dictated or expected by other people. what makes one person happy doesn't not necessary makes the other feel the same. xx

    HAVE A FABULOUS WEEKEND
    MUCH LOVE,
    ELEGANT DUCHESS XX
    https://www.elegantduchess.com/

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  37. Such a fun read. Thanks for sharing dear!

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

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